June 16: THE DANCE OF MARRIAGE

In observing couples who have been married for many meaningful years, I have come to the conclusion that a good marriage is a dance. The more the marriage matures, the more it is a matter of rhythm and response. Conscious of the other’s presence, they move together in rhythm. There is a reciprocity in the dance as the couple responds to one another. They should provide a balance for one another.
This is probably validating the old adage “opposites attract”. A person looks for in a mate what he or she is lacking in personality or character trait. Usually an extrovert marries an introvert or a mechanical person marries someone who is not slightly inclined that way. When one is down, the other the other can pull them up. When one is sad, the other can bring a note of joy.
It gives meaning to the statement in Genesis 2:18 where God says “it is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.” This would mean two that really match, personalities that blend, as well as lives that can gradually be formed together in a relationship.
This brings a stability that cannot normally be found in marriage. The “suitable helper” concept will make the dance enjoyable for both partners as both have found themselves complemented in this permanent covenant relationship. Sadly, many couples break up before they ever learn to dance together. Going simply on emotion, if it doesn’t “feel right”, they begin to look for another partner, even to “cutting-in” on another couple’s dance.
There is another fact in verse 18: God is the one making the “suitable helper”. No one knows you like God, so who would better prepare “the suitable helper” that any man or woman needs? And to assure it works, He will stay around and dance with the couple if allowed. That would create a “Biblical triangle” that would truly bless!

“O God, teach us to dance. So many marriages are being stretched to the
breaking point and children are being torn apart. Bless, O Lord! Amen”